** UPDATE **
I read another thread about the grey ports being driver controlled so I thought I'd shut down and try swapping to the black port. well after shutting down I realized I had forgotten to check another thread and booted it back up and all was well booted into windows 8 no problem.
also just tried restarting and booted just fine... Im a little confused now. last night it wouldnt work with out CMOS reset now it seems to be working as it should.